Authenticity is a prerequisite to intimacy. There are many layers to authentic connections, communication being only part of it. Authenticity is a learned skill that needs to be nurtured and reinforced. 

Unfortunately, most of us do not learn to relate authentically as children. Learning this as an adult usually requires more internal work than most would recognize. It requires some risks, but it is so worth it. 

Authentic connections require several elements: 

1. Safety in relationships. This is particularly true in complicated relationships with people who lack emotional intelligence – and especially hard to achieve.
   
2. Self-acceptance. Learning to accept ourselves (and others) as the perfectly imperfect humans that we are is also necessary. This quality leads to relationship and emotional safety, as we will discuss in more detail.
   
3. Self-awareness. Self-awareness enables us to understand more about who we are and what makes us tick. It is about learning to embrace our strengths and limitations, good and not-so-good qualities, sensitivities, and vulnerabilities. 

As we come to terms with the fact that we are all these things, not either/or, we realize how this ‘messiness that is me’ affects our relationships. It allows us to find ways to work with the messiness instead of denying it. 

Compassion for ourselves can be one of the outcomes of accepting who we are, warts and all. As we learn self-compassion and acceptance, we are better able to feel and express empathy for others in all their messiness. 

Conscious risk-taking involves piecing all these elements together with the ability to recognize who can reciprocate. Not everyone is capable of emotional intimacy. Many are unable to cope with open and honest connection. Conscious risk-taking allows you to determine when and with whom it is safe to be authentic. 

Learn more about these elements and enjoy the journey!

Also…Add to Your Cart… Authentic Connections - Developing Intimate Relationships Worksheet.  This worksheet supports the eBook, puts you in action and on the road to a successful future.  You can find the worksheet on the home page under Digital – Workbooks.

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